The Convincing Move
Everyone is forced to make decisions in their life. Sometimes these decisions are difficult to make and other times it is effortless. I think the thing that makes decisions difficult or easy are the effects that they carry with them. The biggest decision I had to make recently was when I decided to move in with my boyfriend. I decided to move in with him last July. I knew that this decision would have some negative and positive effects. There are three major things that were effected; my parents, my personal space, and money factors.
One of the things that were affected by this decision was my parents. It wasn’t so much my parents, but at their approval. At first my parents didn’t approve of my boyfriend and I moving in together. My parents believe that people shouldn’t move in together until they are married. I could understand why they felt this way, but I knew my reasoning behind the move was smart. Once I explained my reasoning, and they got to know my boyfriend better, they soon realized that it was also a smart idea. I knew that moving in together would save us both a lot of money. It seemed like we were always at each other’s house anyways. Also, I thought if I was serious about him and us, we would need to distinguish if we would be able to live together or not. In my eyes if you can’t live with your boyfriend or girlfriend it doesn’t really make since to stay together, because you would never want to be married and live together.
Another effect the move had was how much of my personal space I would be giving up. I didn’t realize how different it would be to actually live together. It was weird because before I knew that if we needed a break from each other, we could just go back to our separate homes. It was weird to have to live in the same area with him, and not be able to have any “Heidi Space.” It seemed like when we first moved in together his stuff was always in my space, and my things were in his. Also it seemed like when my “girls” came over to get ready to go out, watch a movie, or just hang out, we couldn’t really have true girl time. I will admit it was a mess at first, but with everything else in life you adapt and get used to it. We worked out ways for each other to get alone time. Which is very important.
The final effect of the move, and one of the main reasons we decided to make the big move was to save money. We were always over at each other’s house, so it didn’t make since to pay rent, utilities, cable, etc at two places. This was our main argument in convincing our parents to allow the move. Moving in together not only saved us money on rent and such but also groceries and gas. It did save us a lot of money, considering I was paying $250 a month and he was paying $500, and now we are paying $500 total. We both knew it would save money, but we didn’t realize how much it would save. This made us very happy, but then again who doesn’t like to save money?
Although the whole process of moving in together was a lot of work and convincing, it was well worth it. Not only did it save us money, but also it made our relationship closer and stronger. Everything worked out in the end, but then again in most situations it do. Our families accepted the idea of us moving in together, we worked out ways to prevent from being in each other’s space, and the amount of money we are saving is quite substantial. It is crazy for me to think that a decision that seemed to be so complicated has had such big rewards. All in the entire move was well worth it.